Why Should We Embrace the Selfie Culture

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Stereotyping is no news for us, humans, and as such, it serves as a perfect tool to oversimplify and generalize ideas that might have little or nothing to do with the actual meaning of our behaviors. Instant rejection, mockery, and never-ending online trolling have all been a widespread reaction to the idea of taking selfies. With the invention of the selfie stick (or the Belfie stick, for that matter), those who sneer at the habit have found yet another reason to maintain their bully-like response.

But how much do we really know about the effects of this behavior and would it make more sense to open up to the idea of acceptance rather than ridicule in the face of self-discovery? After all, isn’t that a tremendous part of what selfies are all about?

Because it’s a palette, not a monochrome


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It should be no news that the world is far from black and white, yet we still strive to describe novel behaviors precisely in this manner. It’s perhaps our primal need to compartmentalize something as either “healing” or “poisonous”, but our modern minds should have adapted by now to the notion of a multitude of answers to a single question. And so, the selfie conundrum begins. Is it the same when a person celebrating a happy event wants to commemorate said occasion with a selfie and does so only with purpose, and when a teenage girl hungry for acceptance does so dozens of times a day?

And by default, should we label them both as “narcissists”, or use any other negative description for the purpose of understanding, or for the purpose of judging? Science has yet to decipher the many layers of this complex behavior, and with so many factors to consider, it makes perfect sense that building up a global attitude of rejection is pointless.

There will always be those who dislike it, and they should never be forced to take part in it or endorse it in any way, shape, or form. But for those who do revel in the practice should have their outlet judgment-free, because even if research confirms there are negative impacts, judging wouldn’t help – finding a solution would.

Because motivation matters


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Another derogatory manner in which we perceive the selfie act is through the lens of superficiality. It is seen as a very shallow choice, with no substance, but we also make this snap judgment without digging deeper, ironically so. As creatures driven by curiosity, we have been taking pictures, painting, creating drawings of the human body as an art form and scientific exploration for hundreds of years. And somehow it has taken for the selfie stick to emerge for us to describe this habit as superficial?

Why not instead embrace this form of picture-taking as yet another way to get to know yourself, to celebrate your uniqueness, and share your life with the world? In healthy, moderate amounts, selfies can be a means to commemorate relevant moments, understand yourself better, boost your self-esteem, or they can simply be a road to greater self-acceptance.

This is where adult toys creators such as Svakom thrive in curiosity and innovation and dare to take this freedom of self-love to the next level and give the world the so-called sex selfie stick for ladies eager to learn more about their womanhood with a first-class view. Why shouldn’t we be not just allowed, but encouraged to explore our bodies and our anatomy through the lens of pleasure, and in the privacy of our own homes? The Internet still hasn’t seen a sudden spurt of intra-vaginal images, although the d-pic has permeated many a social media group dedicated solely to celebrating the penis. Not to mention private messages, unsolicited or otherwise.




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Still not classified as an illness or a disorder, and with conflicting research data pointing both to positive and negative impacts of the behavior depending on many factors, taking a different, more constructive approach could be the answer. Instead of instantly admonishing and rejecting it as an unhealthy form of self-expression and exposure, we can look at all the variables to recognize in which instances the selfie helps, and in which it harms.

Another primal instinct of ours forces us to fear the unknown, while the free thinkers among us, on the other hand, let their curiosity take over and we begin a quest for answers. Had we remained safely cradled in the embrace of fear, we would have never gone to the Moon. Although the selfie might not be as revolutionary as the act of space flight, it still remains an expression of human thirst for knowledge, connection, self-affirmation, and a slew of other deep-rooted needs we have yet to understand.